One of the reasons I started this blog was because of all of the support I had received from women in the natural hair community. Over the past few years I have gotten a lot of support from women in the movement and I’ll always be grateful for that. Although I have had a different experience than most of you, I hope that my support of the curly-haired community comes across loud and clear.
I realize that I did not have many of the experiences a lot of you had when it came to your hair. I did not get as much positive affirmation or nearly as much discouragement. I didn’t sit in between my mother’s legs and cry from all the pulling and tugging on my hair and scalp. I’ve never even gotten my hair braided or gotten headaches from having my hair pulled so taut. I’ve never had a comb break in my hair (wait…yeah that definitely happened once!). Images in the media absolutely hit me in a very different, and arguably in a less pointed, way. I never second guessed why I wore my hair the way I did. I just always assumed guys were supposed to wear short hair so that’s what I did.
I had a chemical process once, a few years ago, when I first came to NY. I texturized my hair to get a different look, but didn’t like it enough to stick with it. I also realized that keeping up something like that would be way too intensive for me. So I went back to my regular routine of getting hair cuts every few weeks. Fast forward to today and I have been wearing my fro for two years now. I like having a new style, a new edge, and I recognize that I have a new sense of confidence in myself. There’s a bit of freedom in wearing my hair whatever way I want, no matter what other people have to say about it.
I don’t see the natural hair movement as only a women’s issue. I see it as a self-esteem issue. If embracing your curls in their natural state gives you a sense of freedom and confidence then I fully support anyone who makes that decision. If you choose to relax or straighten your hair, then my hope is that you do it as safely as possible because I believe no one should be sacrificing their health for a good-looking head of hair. In the end, I believe we’re all entitled to express ourselves as we see fit. In the grand scheme of things, it is just hair but at the same time I know when I’m not feeling my hair it’s generally not the best of days.
All things considered, I have to say that seeing women wearing curly hair, locs and fros has inspired me to do whatever I want with my hair and judging from the (re)emergence of these styles among other men, I feel comfortable saying that the boys are following suit. As the years go by I hope that other men and boys will support the women in their lives and their decisions about their hair (and bodies). If this happens, then I think you will probably see more boys and men feeling comfortable enough to take their own risks with their image and hair. We’ve got a lot to learn and I want to keep learning and spreading the word!
I just came across this vid while lurking around the internet and it’s definitely a must see for those of you out there considering growing out your hair. There are a lot of different styles and options. Find what works for you! Credit goes to naturalnana on YouTube. Check out her other vids as well. There is background music so watch your volume. Enjoy!
I recently stopped in to Afrigenix to get my hair cut which you might have seen from my previous post Chopped! Well another part of my experience that I did not write about before was my stylist fawning over how much length I had achieved since I started to grow my hair out. Now, I don’t claim to have the magic answer to help make your hair grow but all I know is, my hair grows like the weeds that ruin the pretty new sod in your front yard. Continue reading Does it really work?!→
I cut my hair! I still have plenty but you might know that lately I haven’t really been feeling my hair all that much. It was getting too hard to deal with and I felt like I needed to switch it up a bit. Plus, my hair does this weird thing (which apparently isn’t all that uncommon) where the ends flop over, which makes them look sort of scraggly (like the dancers, Les Twins). I just got tired of seeing that and the sheer volume of hair I had to deal with on a daily basis. And while I love big hair, recently it’s been a bit too much maintenance for me. So I got a cut!
I walked into the salon (after all, most barbers aren’t prepared to deal with more than 2 inches of hair nowadays) and told my stylist Lisa that I was there for a cut. She was appalled. She kept asking, “Are you sure?….are you sure?!” After a few minutes, I sat down in the chair and she asked me how short I wanted to go. I started having second thoughts. Wait, should I just get the ends trimmed?! I don’t know why but I have seriously never been so nervous about a stupid hair cut. I can do this, I told myself. I took a deep breath and pulled out my work I.D. from about a year and a half ago for some inspiration. I showed it to Lisa (the stylist) and she went at it! Continue reading Chopped!→
Go to Google. Type in “what’s in a name” and you’ll find everything from links to baby names to people seeking purpose in life through their given names. Hell, you’ll even see a passage from Romeo & Juliet. Continue reading What’s in a name?→
I recently came across a few articles specifically geared towards men’s hair care and wanted to share them with everyone. The first is from Real Health and it takes a more holistic approach to growing healthy hair. The second link lists Hair Growth Tips for Black Men but the tips are very applicable to anyone who wants to grow out their hair. I’ve used most of these tips myself and can definitely vouch for the wonders of co-washing. Happy reading!
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