A Must Read: Super Performing at Work and at Home by Dr. Robert Cerfolio

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Dr. Robert James Cerfolio is a well-known cardio-thoracic surgeon who has performed numerous life-saving surgeries throughout his career. In his book, Super Performing at Work and At Home, Cerfolio takes us all on a journey to become our best.

As a young man, Cerfolio grew up in a highly competitive environment that encouraged achievement and hardiness. This perspective served him well as he grew into a young man and an all-American baseball player.  He studied hard in college as pre-med student and went on to become a surgical resident at one of the world’s most renowned centers, the Mayo Clinic.

His life has not been without hurdles, however.  In his memoir, Cerfolio details some very trying surgeries that tested his ability to perform in the operating room.  As laypeople, we often forget that surgeons are not actually miracle workers or angels, they are highly skilled humans with full lives outside of those operating room walls.  By taking a journey with Cerfolio in this book, it’s clear there are many significant bumps in the road.

From mentally taxing surgeries to wavering confidence in times of stress, Cerfolio shows us that those same skills of relaxation and visualization that helped him perform as an all-American baseball player are highly transferable skills to the operating room and to his family life.

In Super Performing at Work and at Home The Athleticism of Surgery and Life, Cerfolio gives us a peek into his techniques to helping him become, and maintain, his status as a super performer.  Some of my personal favorites tips are:

  • “controlling your breathing

  • visualizing yourself from different viewpoints

  • engaging in positive self talk

  • recalling previous success

  • staying in the present

  • and seeing each moment of the challenge as a new opportunity” (forgetting the past moments of both failure and success)

Super Performing at Work and at Home starts on page 1 with Cerfolio detailing one of the scariest times in his life, his wife being operated on for breast cancer.  

Throughout his book, Cerfolio takes us in the depths of his family’s struggle with Lorraine’s health concerns as well as other powerfully pivotal moments in his life.  After reading, I almost feel as if I too am a apart of his family, watching his achievements in surgery and coping with his families triumphs and tragedies.

When I was initially invited to review this book, I was unsure that I would like it.  Reading about a highly skilled surgeon who also happened to be a national-class athlete definitely was not something that I thought I could find real interest in.  Somehow, Cerfolio managed to capture my heart on his journey and I have the feeling he will capture yours too.  Along the way, you will gain valuable insight and inspiration on how to be and live better in a world that constantly brings up challenges and obstacles.

Super Performing is available via River Grove books and retails for $16.95.

Disclosure: This review was sponsored by River Grove Books and a sample copy of Super Performing at Work and at Home The Athleticism of Surgery and Life was provided to me at no cost.  All opinions listed herein are my own and have not been influenced by the post’s sponsors in any way.

Weekly Obsessions 7.25.14

Check out this week’s latest obsessions!

You see a lot of interesting things here in NYC, especially as you navigate the subways. Some times things are cool, other times they are not.  So it always a pleasure when someone brings an extra bit of sunshine to what can be a difficult commute. I spotted this video on Huff Post and this woman sings Beyonce’s Halo (aka one of her best songs…EVER) and does a great job. Check it out!

If you follow me on Instagram then you probably know I’m not a huge fan of selfies, but this photobomb by Queen Elizabeth in a teen’s selfie is priceless.

This man is my idol.  Anyone else wants to be as lively as this when they’re older? #turndownpaque

I’ve been reading this book called, Super Performing at Work and Home The Athleticism of Surgery and Life by author and surgeon Robert James Cerfolio.  I just finished and it’s awesome, I’ll be posting a real review soon but since I’m still reeling from it, I thought I’d give you all the heads up about it.

Product Review: Mission Belt Co.

Back in March 2014, I wrote a small feature on Mission Belt Co., a company that makes specially designed hole-less belts.  After being enthralled with the brand, I finally got one!

Not only does Mission Belt Co. provide cool, unique belts, they also use $1 from every belt sold to provide micro-lending through Kiva and help fight global hunger.

Recently, Mission Belt Co. just launched a few new summer inspired belts in bold colors and I had to get my hands on the purple one:

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One of the best-selling features of their belts, is that no piece has any holes.  None!  So if you’re in between sizes or feeling a little thinner after months of dedicated work outs then you just ratchet up the belt a bit.  There are no unsightly holes anywhere.

While I personally really dig my belt I have to say that the ratcheting sound definitely took some getting used to.  Admittedly, I was a little self-conscious my first couple of times using a public bathroom (which tend to be eerily quiet) because the sound is kind of unexpected.  Not loud, per se, but definitely unexpected.

If you’re like me, and Seeley Booth, then embracing this little style piece of rebellion in your otherwise basic or classic wardrobe, you probably won’t be disappointed. Belts are available in the Mission Belt Co. online store and range from about $26 to $40 each.

Disclosure: This post was sponsored by Mission Belt Co. and all the opinions listed herein are mine and mine alone.

Product Review: KeySmart

I’ve never been a fan of multiple key rings or large key chains because I find them pretty impractical. The last thing you need when you’re trying to access your keys is a barrage of vacation themed rings getting in your way.  And that’s exactly what KeySmart aims to change.

KeySmart was created with the purpose of creating a more streamlined key organizer.  The style itself is simple and sleek and reminiscent of an old swiss army knife.  In my opinion, this is exactly what makes KeySmart appealing to people of all ages.

In my experience the KeySmart organizer was pretty easy to use.  KeySmart comes with a few sample keys already included to show you exactly how it works.  A simple flathead screwdriver allows you to disassemble the KeySmart, add your own keys and reassemble the organizer.  It took me about 10 minutes to do this with no instruction so I believe that most people will find KeySmart very easy to use.

That being said, the thing I probably like most about KeySmart is its small size. It fits great in any pocket and for me, it fit awesomely in the pocket of my running shorts which now helps me avoid removing and re-attaching my everyday key rings when I go out for a little exercise.

Currently priced at $19.98 for the base model, I think a lot of you out there will be able to appreciate what KeySmart offers in terms of convenience and size.  My only big negative is that it’s pricey to be a “key organizer”.  I find that it may be difficult for the average person to justify the cost for a key chain.  Otherwise, another minus is that, at times, KeySmart isn’t as convenient as I would like.  It was especially difficultly to pull out and separate the keys when I found myself in a hurry.  Those considering a purchase should definitely consider this. All in all, I think KeySmart is a decent product that solves a very real problem. I just wonder if the average person will be willing to make the change to a much simpler, and low maintenance key organizer.

Disclosure: KeySmart provided product samples for the purpose of this review. All opinions listed herein are mine alone and have not been unduly influenced by KeySmart.

Weekly Obsessions 7.17.14

It’s time for Weekly Obsessions!!!!

First up, I was riveted when I came across this first video.  Here you can view Tom Thum, armed with just a microphone, delivering some of the best beatboxing work I’ve ever heard.  This is a clip of his TEDxSydney talk from 2013.  It is a little long but it’s well worth the watch!

A friend on Facebook shared the news that a group of 8th graders had recently been signed to Sony Records.  The metal band, Unlocking the Truth, is unique because of their age and their race. This group of young black men are doing what they love and showing people that stereotypes are lame all at the same time. Watch this performance of them in Times Square on 6/23/13.  Also check out their Facebook page too!

What’s in a Book: Mascupathy

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Written by two psychotherapists, Mascupathy: Understanding and Healing the Malaise of American Manhood is a deep look into the modern male psyche.

If you’re an academic and interested in masculinity and gender studies, chances are Mascupathy is a book that you’re definitely going to be interested in.  In our current U.S. culture we see the ways in which men have difficulty navigating the world, whether it’s an inability to express ourselves without violence or finding new ways to excel at work, there are definitely challenges we all face on a day-to-day basis.  This is precisely what makes Mascupathy relevant as a book.  What if this perspective could have helped prevent violence if addressed early enough?

What I like about Mascupathy is that it views some of these difficulties, not as inherent character flaws, but more as an effect of socialization and environmental feedback.  Modern masculinity is challenging at times and I would venture to say that all of us at some point experience difficulty navigating the waters.  But, authors Charlie Donaldson and Randy Flood have no interest in making men out to be bad guys and recognize that difficulties exist on a continuum.  And better yet, they do provide insight into how we can be more responsible men in in modern times.

The book lands at 158 pages but certainly packs a hefty punch at only $14.95.  You can learn more about what authors Charlie Donaldson and Randy Flood think about mascupathy at their website for the Institute for the Prevention & Treatment of Mascupathy at www.mascupathy.org.

Disclosure: A review copy of Mascupathy: Understanding and Healing the Malaise of American Manhood was provided courtesy of the authors and Wilks Communications.

Extra Phone Protection with the inkFusion Pro Case from Skinit

From blog posts to a nice meal, I always like creating things and that’s why I was especially happy to try my hand at creating a custom inkFusion Pro Case from Skinit.

SkinIt offers a variety of skins and cases for your most treasured electronic devices including laptops, tablets and smartphones. So when the folks at Skinit offered me the opportunity to create a custom skin for my iPhone 5, I was all to happy to create something new that would protect my phone with an added touch of style.

Using the Skinit online creator tool is remarkably intuitive and easy to use. I was able to create the below custom skin/case in about 10-15 minutes total. Not to bad, eh? And to top it all off, the creator tool boasts a variety of images and design touches that you can use pretty easily.

The inkFusion Pro Case offers a lot of protection  with its two piece thermoplastic polymer fusion case.  The rubber liner offers great impact protection while the hard shell provides extra protection and style.  I personally have enjoyed my case so far but I have to say that after a few drops, the outer shell is already starting to show a few nicks and scratches.

All in all, at $34.95 I find it hard to complain about a good case that you get to specialize with your own imagery such as your brand or even pictures from your favorite vacation.  Again, the case creator tool is easy to use and in my experience the shipping was also very fast.  If you’re looking to step up your Galaxy or iPhone with a little something new then maybe the Skinit inkFusion Pro Case is just the ticket.

Disclosure: This post has been sponsored by Skinit inkFusion and product for review was provided as a courtesy to MANE MAN.

4 Men’s Subscription Boxes That Make Life Easier

Most guys aren’t too keen on extending shopping excursions, or short ones for that matter. If you’re one of those but find yourself running out of shaving cream or non-holey underwear then this post is for you. Check out these subscriptions boxes that will make your life much easier.

Bespoke Post Box of Awesome

Bespoke Post: The aptly named “Box of Awesome” is Bespoke Post’s monthly subscription service for men.  For $45 per month club members will be sent a Box of Awesome that includes men’s oriented lifestyle stuff.  Previous boxes have included everything from whiskey stones, bar sets, beach throws and weekend bags.  Non-members can purchase a one time box at a $55 cost.  I personally have a subscription and it’s stand out feature is that early in the month you’ll receive an email highlighting the box that’s about to ship. If you don’t want it, you just opt out of that month without penalty and your monthly subscription resumes the following month.

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Jocks N Tees:  If you’re like most guys, then you probably have some holey undies hanging out in your drawer somewhere (or perhaps you’re wearing them right now) and that’s exactly what Jocks N Tees attempts to help you avoid.  Sign up for a subscription and receive t-shirts and underwear monthly without having to give it too much thought.  You can set up your personalized subscription in their online store and choose whatever items you need and the frequency at which your replacements arrive. This definitely takes the hassle out of underwear shopping.

Birchbox Ultimate CollectionBirchbox Man: Are you in the market for grooming and lifestyle products? If so, then Birchbox Man might just be the right fit.  At $20 per month (or $195 per year) your monthly subscription includes 3-4 deluxe sample sizes of grooming products along with a lifestyle product.

Dollar Shave Club

Dollar Shave Club: Most men rely on wet shaves to keep their face looking its best and the Dollar Shave Club aims to take the hassle out of getting those pesky replacement blades and cartridges.  You purchase your razor for your initial order and receive the blades and a handle in that order. Thereafter, DSC will send you replacement blades on a monthly basis, all for a price between $1 and $9 per month.

Lacoste Goes L!VE with New Scent

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Looking for the perfect summer scent? Lacoste L!VE might just be what you’ve been looking for.

Lacoste, well-known for its trademark croc logo, has been delving in the scent game for sometime now and have now just recently released a new product called Lacoste L!VE.

Lacoste L!VE is a light, refreshing scent for men which features bright lime and saffron notes with undertones of sandalwood and licorice making it a pretty good gift for any guy really.

The Lacoste team sent over a sample my way and I think I’ve worn it every day since then.  As promised it delivers an easy, refreshing scent that I think most people can get behind.  It’s not very strong either, so if you’re sensitive to smells then it’s a pretty good fit.

You can purchase Lacoste L!VE at the Lacoste online store.

Disclosure: Sample product was provided by Lacoste for the purpose of this review.

Product Review: Obviously Boxer Briefs with Anatomical Pouch

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I don’t purposely make it happen to review underwear here on MANE MAN but it seems as though it’s something I’m growing accustomed to. Truth be told, I’m a bit of an underwear aficionado (no, not in a creepy way) but just in that I want to try out different undies to make sure I’m super comfortable.  There’s nothing wrong with that, right?  That being said, today I bring you my review of Obviously’s Basic Boxer Briefs with Anatomical Pouch.

OK, I know what you’re thinking. Anatomical pouch?! Yep!  Here’s the thing, Obviously (the underwear brand) has created the anatomical pouch to give a “nearly naked” feel.  Now, that’s a tall order.  And let me tell you, I was pleasantly surprised.

For guys who are looking for superior fabrics, Obviously has definitely got that covered.  These boxer briefs were definitely one of the most comfortable pair of underwear I’ve ever worn.  Yes, this specific pair comes in at $27 bucks a pair, but maybe they’re just worth it.  The 90% micro modal and 10% lycra fabric is awesomely smooth and offers sweat absorbent technology.  I tried mine out on a 85 degree plus day here in NYC and was really thankful that I had worn these briefs instead of some cotton ones.  It goes without saying, humidity is not my friend.

On top of that, the anatomical pouch makes for a comfortable day, even if it is super humid outside.  Is the “anatomical pouch” a little strange to look at? Sure, I’ll concede that. However, what it lacks in handsomeness it more than makes up for in comfort.  After all, it is designed to let you enjoy that natural hang you already have and ain’t nothing wrong with that!

No chafing, no squashing, very little sweat, and not hot.  Yep, these are a winner.  I think it’s time you try your own pair of Obviously underwear…

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Win a pair for yourself or for a “friend”.  The winner will be announced late this week and contacted via email by yours truly!  MANE MAN subscribers will get a big advantage on this one so make sure to join the mailing list in the left sidebar there.  You will get max 2-3 emails per week.  Now get to work and GOOD LUCK!

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Disclosure: Products for review and giveaway have been provided courtesy of MensUnderwearStore.com.

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