8 Reasons You Want to Touch Black Women’s Hair – And Why They Mean You Shouldn’t

Originally published on Everyday Feminism. Reposted with author’s (Maisha Z. Johnson) permission.

There are a million ways to compliment a Black woman.

You could tell me I look radiant. Say you like my lipstick – it’s hard to find the right shade. Tell me you appreciate how my mind works.

I’m not just fishing for compliments here. I’m giving you options to avoid the dreaded “compliment” of touching my hair.

I’m sure you’ve come across the warning not to touch Black women’s hair before. But do you really understand why it’s so important to keep your hands out of our tresses?

This is a super common racial microaggression, which is a subtle form of racism often done by someone who doesn’t mean to be racist. I’ve had lots of people (usually white people) touch my hair, and in most cases, the touch came with a well-meaning compliment.

But you probably don’t know what the temptation to touch Black women’s hair means in US society – or about the impact if you follow your urge.

The objectification of Black bodies has been part of US culture since slavery, and it’s still going strong as one of our everyday struggles. This behavior affects all Black folks, but for this piece, I’m focusing on racialized sexism against women.

But wait – when you touch Black women’s hair, you don’t have racist or sexist intentions. So how does this relate to racism or sexism?

The answer comes down to the one of our core feminist values, consent – respecting everyone’s agency over their own bodies, including their hair. Having our hair touched is just one of the ways Black women are often denied this agency in our society.

Let’s go through the most common reasons I’ve heard for touching my hair, and how they relate to patriarchal white supremacy.

1. You’re Curious

I went to a writing retreat where a woman was insatiably curious about how my hair feels. She’d never been around hair like mine before, and she stared until I thought her eyes would bulge out of her head.

I finally gave in to letting her touch it before the poor woman had a medical emergency.

She asked the same questions every curious white person asks: “Is it real? How do you get it like that? How do you wash it?”

I understand the curiosity. But do you know why you’re so curious? It’s because the texture of my 4C hair is often invisible in mainstream society.

Eurocentric beauty standards mean that white women are a lot more common in the media than Black women. The Black women who are visible tend to have chemically straightened hair. Even I struggle to find care tips for and images of my hair type. So it makes sense that you haven’t come across those, and I appreciate that you want to correct your lack of information.

But unlike the white people who don’t notice how unusual my hair seems until they feel the urge to touch it, I notice the invisibility of my hair type all the time.

And that invisibility sends the constant message that my hair is unappealing – which is just one of many media messages about Black women’s inferiority. It’s hard to feel good about yourself when popular images of “beauty” don’t look like you.

So if you really want to learn about our hair, find information through research instead of reminding a Black woman that her beauty is rarely celebrated.

If you know a Black woman well, you could respectfully ask how she’d feel about answering questions. Some women don’t mind, but you’re not entitled to her answers. The expectation to educate people can get tiring, so lots of Black women just don’t feel like talking about it anymore.

2. You Find My Hair Fascinating

Sometimes my hair evokes more than curiosity – it fills people, like the woman at my residency, with wonder. Here’s how being fascinating can be a bad thing.

Black women are often “othered” in US society – like being treated as if we don’t exist in the media. Our hair is othered with insults and misunderstandings like the interpretation of braids on Black people as “gang affiliations.

Even when the othering seems “positive,” it doesn’t feel good. It disrupts our efforts to simply exist without being treated like we’re abnormal. At the writing retreat, for instance, I’d hoped for quiet introspection.

Instead, I had a stranger’s hands in my hair. And “compliments” that essentially said, “Wow, you’re different!” And pressure to answer questions that basically covered why I’m so strange.

It was a little dehumanizing, even though she didn’t mean it to be.

When you rarely see Black women in the media, and even “positive” images objectify us, you’re influenced to treat Black women as objects. That’s not a good thing, even if we’re fascinating objects.

My hair is one of the ways I have control over my own image – it’s not just some anomaly for people to touch. Let me reclaim my own beauty and exist without being exotified.

3. You Want to Compliment Me

You may think this is my favorite reason. Who wouldn’t want a compliment?

This is tough, because I appreciate the good intentions – and then I feel bad for rejecting your compliment. Let me explain now so I don’t have to see your disappointment as you realize this is the wrong way to compliment me.

Say you’re at a party and I arrive with my afro combed out, shimmering, and on point. I wouldn’t mind at all if you say how great my hair looks. But then you reach out, telling me my hair is so beautiful and you’d give anything to run your fingers through it – and I have to stop you right there.

You’re shifting from a kind compliment into fascination territory. It’s not flattering to be exotified like some strange creature – even if you mean it in a “good” way.

Besides, if my hair’s looking good, don’t mess it up! I didn’t put time into it just to go around with a dent the shape of your hand.

Imagine a different scenario. You’ve crafted a beautiful, hand-made hat, which you’re proudly wearing at the party. I walk up, eyes wide with fascination, and say, “I like your hat.”

Then, before you can say “thank you,” I reach out and smash it with my palm.

Wouldn’t that be frustrating? Wouldn’t it be even more frustrating if you got upset and I replied, “You should appreciate it! It’s a compliment”?

That’s just rude. So please, respect Black women and stick to verbal compliments about our hair.

4. You Think It’s Not a Big Deal

Touching my hair is relatively harmless compared to other ways Black women are dehumanized, so I could try to “get over it.” But first, let’s be clear about what I’m “getting over.”

There’s the history of white people’s ownership of Black bodies. The obvious example is slavery, when Black folks were considered property, not people, by law. They had no power over their own bodies – which included being raped by slave owners.

That’s horrendous enough, but there are plenty more examples throughout history. Like the fact that Black people in the mid-1850s were considered such a deviation from the “norm” that they were exhibited in zoos and freak shows.

One woman, Saartjie Baartman, was displayed in a cage, mocked, and gawked at. Even after her death, scientists dissected her body to investigate the difference between the “savage” (Black) woman and the “civilized” (white) woman. Then her genitals and brain were put back on display until 1985.

“Jet-black and woolly was her hair,” a Victorian poet wrote.

Saartjie Baartman wasn’t buried until 2002. Amid racial tensions, her burial site in South Africa was recently defaced.

This is our history as Black women, and it hasn’t just stayed in the past.

White stars like Miley Cyrus and Amy Schumer liberate themselves by using Black women as props. Meanwhile, Black women experience daily microaggressions – including other degrading phrases meant to be compliments, everything from “You’re pretty for a Black girl” to “You’re not like other Black people.”

And while none of these acts alone may seem like a big deal, they don’t happen in a vacuum. They combine to give Black women the constant feeling that our bodies are always up for objectification, judgment, and othering.

By the time you take the seemingly simple action of touching my hair – no matter how well-meaning you are – I’m tired of being an object. It’s not a big deal to you, but it may just be the last straw for me.

5. You Wouldn’t Be Offended If Someone Touched Your Hair

If you treat others like you’d want to be treated, you should respect Black women’s boundaries like you’d want yours respected – even if their boundaries are different from yours.

I have a white friend who once asked me to put her hair in a french braid. She didn’t mind my touch, even though I was terrible at braiding it, because for her, it’s “just hair.” But when she wanted to switch roles and braid my hair, I stopped her.

Because for me and many other Black women, it’s more than “just hair” – it’s a vital source of empowerment.

For many of us, natural hair is a political statement of embracing our beauty instead of the idea that we have to change to be acceptable.

As a result, we’re called “ugly,” discriminated against in the job market, and profiled as criminals. We’ve been told since we were children, often from the women in our families, that something was wrong with our hair, and that the world wouldn’t accept it as is.

So owning and loving our hair is a revolutionary act of reclaiming our worth. It’s an integral part of our cultural experience. A white person touching our hair carries a different context than when you, as a white person whose humanity is affirmed far more often, have someone touch your hair.

This applies to all kinds of situations. People of different races have social conditions affecting them in unique ways. Usually, the question of “Would a white person be offended?” is not an accurate measure of whether or not something is harmful for Black folks.

6. You Have No Idea How Often We Have to Deal With This

Black women deal with people touching our hair a lot. Now you know. Okay, there’s more to it than that: Black women deal with people touching our hair a hell of a lot.

If you approach a Black woman saying “I just have to feel your hair,” it’s pretty safe to assume this isn’t the first time she’s heard that.

Everyone who asks me if they can touch follows a long line of people othering me – including strangers who touch my hair without asking. The psychological impact of having people constantly feel entitled my personal space has worn me down.

If you’re not a Black woman, and you’re doubting that this happens so frequently, consider that…well, that you’re not a Black woman, so you’ve never walked in my shoes, or under my afro.

Do me a favor and take my word for it – or find the many other Black women speaking up and writing about this for more confirmation. Then find some empathy for those of us who so often have our boundaries violated.

7. You Know Someone Else Who Didn’t Mind

Do you know a Black woman who doesn’t mind when people touch her hair? So do I! We all have different preferences, and I don’t claim to be the authority on all Black women’s boundaries.

Even my preferences vary. For instance, I’ve let curious children feel my hair because – unlike adults who should know better – they don’t understand why I wouldn’t want them to. Many Black women’s boundaries include no hair touching, but that’s not even the whole point of why you should keep your hands to yourself.

The point is that everyone deserves to have their personal space respected. As feminists, respect for consent is one of our fundamental values. That should include not assuming that a Black woman consents to touch, even if another woman didn’t mind.

What if you ask for permission? We’re used to consent meaning asking first, and proceeding if you get a “yes.”

But just like sexual consent includes things like body language and inebriation status, getting consent to touch a Black woman’s hair includes more than just asking. You also have to consider the broader context. Even the fact that you’re curious points to a problem. It means you’ve internalized society’s othering of Black women – and you should work on that before you satisfy your curiosity.

There might be situations when Black women don’t mind touching. But there are also situations like that writing retreat, when I let the woman objectify me because I wanted to avoid any issues. And times when the person who wants to touch me is in a position of power, like an employer – and there’s a lot of pressure to be “nice enough” to let them touch.

So it’s better to err on the side of keeping your hands to yourself – even if you’d give the courtesy of asking before touching.

8. You’re Offended By the Idea of Not Being Able to Touch My Hair

Still think it’s no biggie to ask? Let’s talk about those “issues” that might come up if I say “no.”

Whenever I write about how white people can avoid being oppressive, some white people inevitably object to being told what they “can and can’t do.” You don’t want your freedom limited, but in many cases, this reaction isn’t about freedom. It’s about entitlement.

Touching my hair is the perfect example.

It’s an act that invades my personal space, and if I don’t want that – even if you don’t understand why I don’t – you should respect my choice. I mean, you’re trying to pet me. Even my cat sets her boundaries when she doesn’t want to be petted, so shouldn’t I, as a human being, have my boundaries respected, too?

As a woman, I’m subject to rape culture that says men are entitled to my body. As a Black woman, I’m under even more pressure to be available for other people to touch.

I’ve been called “uptight,” “angry,” and “overreacting,” for saying “no” to having my hair touched. Hopefully you’d never do such a thing. But if you take it personally when a Black woman doesn’t let you touch her hair, it’s time to let the defensiveness go.

Having people feel entitled to our personal space at all times puts us in a vulnerable position. We’re pressured to let you touch us, and then we’re demonized for asserting our boundaries.

So don’t act offended if a Black woman turns down your request to touch her hair – you really have nothing to be offended about.


Those are most of the reasons I’ve heard for wanting to touch my hair. Did you catch all the good reasons not to?

With this simple act of self-control, you can help change culture around, you including:

  • Helping Black women feel safer by respecting our personal space.
  • Preserving Black women’s fly hairstyles.
  • Being a more supportive ally.
  • Creating consent culture by respecting Black women’s boundaries.
  • Resisting the influence of white supremacy’s othering of Black bodies.

These goals are worth prioritizing before your curiosity. Next time you’d like to touch a Black woman’s hair, remember how your reasons, no matter how well-meaning, support white supremacy.

And if you see me on the street, feel free to let the compliments flow – I’ll be happy to accept them without your hands in my hair.


Maisha Z. Johnson is the Digital Content Associate and Staff Writer of Everyday Feminism. You can find her writing at the intersections and shamelessly indulging in her obsession with pop culture around the web. Maisha’s past work includes Community United Against Violence (CUAV), the nation’s oldest LGBTQ anti-violence organization, and Fired Up!, a program of California Coalition for Women Prisoners. Through her own project, Inkblot ArtsMaisha taps into the creative arts and digital media to amplify the voices of those often silenced. Like her on Facebook or follow her on Twitter @mzjwords.

Black Friday and Cyber Monday 2016 Deals & Steals

Black Friday is quickly approaching and if you’re planning on spending any money, then this post will help provide you with some of the best deals related to grooming and style.  Check out the list below for deals what will be good for yourself and help you put away some holiday gifts for other as well.  I’ll update as new deals and information rolls in so keep checking back for updates!

Skin Care & Beauty

Bétèrre Skin+Care

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Boscia (sale Friday, 11/25 5AM PST – Sunday, 11/27 at 11:59PM PST)

  • BOGO 50% OFF, Select Masks & Cleaner: Use promo code YESPLEASE
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  • 50% OFF Select Blotting Linens


  • Buy One Get One Free: Mirakle Cream


  • Receive 50% off select Perricone MD products with exclusive Daily Deal specials each day (Black Friday and Cyber Monday – 11/23 – 11/28)


  •  25% off site wide (excludes all holiday gift sets). Includes LUNA 1 range, LUNA 2 range, Day Cleanser, Night Cleanser, Cleanser for Men, ISSA, ISSA accessories, and IRIS (11/24 – 11/28)

Cos Bar

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Mineral Fusion

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Hair Care


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Hair La Vie All Natural Haircare Products

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WEN Hair & Body Care by Chaz Dean

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  • Ultra CHI flat irons and blow dryers, $74.96 ($149.95 value)

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Body Care

Jack Black

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  •  30% off all full priced styles (no exclusions) & 10% of sale styles (11/22-11/29)
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Food & Drink

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You can also check out WalletHubs list of 2016’s Best Things to Buy on Black Friday to see more deals (and possibly brainstorm on some gifts). Happy shopping!



3 Steps to Stache Care + A Winner!

Thank you to those who entered the Harry’s Truman Shave Set Giveaway and CONGRATULATIONS Ignaldo on your win!  Please check your email to redeem your prize!

As it is the month of Movember, and so many of us are trying to take extra special care of our staches this month, I collaborated with Harry’s to bring you a cool infographic on healthy stache care.

Harry’s is also donating $1 from the sale of each Truman Set and Handle up to $50,000 on Harrys.com for the next two weeks to the Movember Foundation to support men’s health initiatives. So even if you didn’t win you can purchase your own set and know that you’re contributing to a worthwhile cause!

Check out the infographic below!


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Harry’s Truman Shave Set GIVEAWAY!

Happy November all…or should I say Movember?

If you’re not familiar, every year men and women around the globe raise millions of dollars for men’s health initiatives. Movember focuses on raising awareness and funds for men’s health concerns such as prostate cancer, testicular cancer, suicide prevention and mental health.

To honor Movember, and maybe get you the shaving tools that you need for the month, I’m partnering with Harry’s to give away a Truman Shave Set to one lucky winner! The set includes:

  • 1 Truman Razor Handle
  • 1 Foaming Shave Gel (4.0oz)
  • 3 German Engineered Blade Cartridges
  • 1 Travel Blade Cover

As a bonus, the winner will also receive a daily face lotion from Harry’s to hydrate their mug after shaving. This also has SPF 15 which is great to use to combat wrinkles year round.

The winner will also receive this bonus Harry's Daily Face Lotion!
The winner will also receive this bonus Harry’s Daily Face Lotion!

Enter your giveaway below. There are multiple ways to enter and you may tweet up to once per day for additional entries! The winner will be announced on November 8, 2016 here on the blog.

Good luck and happy shaving!


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Men’s Grooming in the New Age


This is a guest post by freelance writer Mark Greene.

Since we have entered the new age of men’s grooming, more and more products have appeared on the market. Their main purpose is to help you look and feel great, but are all these products necessary? And which ones are better than others?! Here are some ideas you should try to keep in mind!

Shaving soaps

Shaving soaps are great because not only do they offer you a very good value, but they also protect your skin. Not only do shaving soaps make facial hair easier to remove, but thanks to shaving soaps you also have the ability to moisturize your skin.

Face wash

Daily face wash is one of the product types that has historically been geared towards women, but there are many men that still use it without a problem. Opening up the pores is crucial if you want to look at your best. Choosing the best face wash might be a little difficult if you don’t know what you’re looking for. Experimentation is key so try out these products and figure out which one works great for you.


Lip balm

Sometimes men can struggle with having smooth, soft lips. A good lip balm can come in handy in your grooming regimen.  Lip balms can range in price but getting a high quality lip balm is usually not that expensive. These days,  your neighborhood grocery store or pharmacy probably has plenty of good options.  

Facial lotion

A good facial lotion, or daily moisturizer,  will help you better deal with the UVB rays not to mention it can eliminate the effects that comes from UVA rays as well. Facial lotion with SPF can help protect your skin from ongoing damage. Some options that include glycerin and other ingredients, like aloe vera, can help you maintain fresh and healthy looking skin.

Facial scrub

A good facial scrub will eliminate dead skin cells and smooth your skin. This helps will keeping your face looking bright and fresh. And depending on what facial scrub you use, you can also harness the power of ingredients like citrus, menthol, caffeine and many others.

Anti-fatigue eye gel

It might not sound like much at first, but this type of gel is actually very helpful. Eye gels, or creams if you prefer, enable you to hide the under-eye bags or dark circles making your face look brighter for your early morning meetings.

These grooming staples are products that offer you an immense value and outstanding results that you will appreciate right from the start. While good grooming products can be hard to find, this list of product suggestions for you to try can help you find what best fits your needs.


Mark Greene is the owner of one of the well visited men’s blog on the web today: Men’s Axis. He is a lifestyle professional writer and digital nomad with a keen interest in men’s mental and physical health, life hacks, grooming, men’s fashion, sex, dating, career and overall day-to-day solutions for men. The world, according to him, is what you make of it. So go out there and make it amazing.


My Updated Hair Care Regimen – Fall 2016

Greetings all!

Since we’re (theoretically) entering a new season  I wanted to take a moment to share with you my latest hair care regimen, fall edition! In the following handy little infographic you will see my current hair care regimen if you’re looking for some insight into my process and the current products that I’m using.  While the process doesn’t change much, there is some variety of products depending on the season. Once winter hits, I’m sure I’ll be updating it.  For now, enjoy the fall regimen below!

It should also be noted that I previously deep conditioned my hair weekly with  Pantene Pro-V Medium-Thick Hair Solutions Intensive Restoration Treatment. I have not been doing this lately so that’s why it’s not including my current regimen. As the weather gets cooler and dryer, I’m sure I’ll be deep conditioning again to take extra special care of my hair.

Click the photo below to enlarge!


Solange Reaches the Top on Billboard

There’s always a healthy, and sometimes, unhealthy amount of competition between siblings in everyday life. There is certainly no exception when it comes to celebrity siblings.  Now Solange and Beyoncé are entering into new celebrity-sibling territory as Solange’s latest album A Seat at the Table reaches the number 1 spot on Billboard. Congrats Solange! With this achievement, Solange and Beyoncé become the only sisters in Billboard history to have reached the #1 spot…and they did it in the same year!

Everyone’s little sister, Solange, has had her share of success over the years. She’s released several albums since she left her days of helping write and dance for Destiny’s Child.

Billboard charts these days aren’t only about album sales. They also take into account streaming and digital purchases. This, I think, follows the trend of music but also levels the playing field for artists who wouldn’t typically get the kind of shine or PR (public relations) push that artists like Beyoncé or Britney Spears might get, for example.

Not one to shy away from using her voice, in her latest effort, Solange’s latest is personal and politically charged but maybe not in the way that you might expect. From what I’ve heard so far (which is only two tracks), she is in perfectly pure, unforced Solange form.  If you’re looking for a big pop belter Solange isn’t your girl and never has been. This, I think, only adds to her the dynamics of her talent and makes her incredibly unique. The dimension of movement in the album’s first videos and the space in which her natural voice exists make for a really enjoyable musical experience.  Simply put, she’s dope.

Check out the video for “Don’t Touch My Hair” from A Seat at the Table below:

3 Reasons Luke Cage Should be Your Next Binge-worthy TV Adventure

On September 30, Netflix presented its newest Marvel offering, the much-anticipated Luke Cage. It’s the show you should be watching!

Metro black culture is put front and center

One of the coolest things about new Netflix show Luke Cage is that it so boldly celebrates Harlem, NYC and the black experience that we don’t see too often on mainstream television.  Filming was completed in New York City so residents of the concrete jungle will find a lot of familiar sights in the series. In addition, soul, r&b and hip hop music play a big part in series. If the conversations among my friends are any indication, I think that a soundtrack to the series would be highly desired.   If you have love for any of these things, it’s hard to imagine that you wouldn’t appreciate what Luke Cage brings to the table. The show also features an overwhelmingly Black cast which is something we don’t often get to witness.

It’s so popular it crashed Netflix streaming in at least 3 countries

The premier of Luke Cage has been highly anticipated. Most of us (who aren’t die-hard comic book fans) first got a glimpse of Luke in Netflix’s AKA Jessica Jones series starring Krysten Ritter.  As fans marveled at Daredevil, then AKA Jessica Jones, our appetites were not so subtly anticipating the arrival of Luke Cage. So much so apparently many of us started streaming it at the same time!  There are reports that streaming was interrupted in the US, UK and Ireland as everyone took time to start the binge-worthy series upon its release. Given its popularity, there’s something to be said for just giving the show a try.

You get to reconnect with some familiar faces

Not only do you get to enjoy Mike Colter as the virtually indestructible Luke Cage, but there are also some other familiar faces (and new ones too) that will help you commit to the series.  Cornell “Cottonmouth” Stokes, the show’s main villain is a face familiar to many Netflix aficionados.  He’s most recognizable as the character Remy from that other hit Netflix show, House of Cards.  In tow, as Cottonmouth’s inspired but misguided business partner of sorts, is the incomparable Alfre Woodard who seems to deliver each line with conviction even though she initially seems much shadier than she’s letting on.  Sons of Anarchy fans will also appreciate the appearance of Theo Rossi who was known as Juice in the series.

Luke Cage is streaming on Netflix now. You can check out the trailer below for a pre-binge sneak peek:

Travel Made Easy: 1Voice Hooded Neck Pillow

1 Voice is a wearable technology company that has recently released a new product, a travel neck pillow.

If you’re someone who travels regularly for work, or for leisure, you know how important being comfortable can be. There’s nothing worse than trying to sleep on a long flight when you’re hot, squished up to next someone, and not able to get comfortable enough to take that much-needed nap. And it goes without saying that plane seats aren’t the most comfortable places to be in the first place.

Anything that can help create a bit more comfort is a must-have, at least in my eyes.

1 Voice’s Hooded Neck Pillow boasts some great features for convenience and comfort:

  • Built-in earphones
  • Ultra-comfort cotton fleece material
  • Memory Foam Pillow that contours to match your every move










While I haven’t been able to use the pillow on my travel just yet, I can tell you the memory foam makes for a very comfortable resting position. The addition of the hood is great with its soft material. Overall, there is a lot of comfort here. Unfortunately, the headphones don’t quite live up to my audiophile sensibilities but for the average user might do the trick. There’s a lot to be said for not having to remember to carry around your headphones as the pillow comes with that convenience.

If you’re a traveler you may want to consider investing in a new kind of neck pillow such as this one, that does triple duty with comfort, style and entertainment. The product retails for $64 and is available online via 1 Voice.


Disclosure: Compensation was provided by 1 VOICE for the purpose of this review.

SHHH! My Summertime Grooming Secret

Everyone has a secret now and then, right?

One day when I was walking down the streets of NYC, I walked past a salon from which two women were standing outside with a small bottle asking women if they could spray them. I found this to be an incredibly odd thing to do and avoided their side of the street altogether. I mean, who sprays strangers’ faces in the streets?!  NYC is weird but that was a little too weird for me. They also weren’t targeting men at all which made me think that it was something only reserved for the ladies…go figure.

Fast forward to a few weeks later when I received a package from the folks at Wen asking me to try out their replenishing treatment mist line up.  My first thought? “WHAT IS THIS?!”

As it turns out, it was just what those strange women were spraying by female passersby only a few weeks prior on the street. It was then that I was introduced to the mid day spritz.

My personal experience with Wen products has been fantastic so I was all too eager to give the mists a chance even though I found the concept strange.  It turns out the mists would be my favorite new grooming find this summer. Let me tell you why…

It’s been hot and humid a lot in this city. This summer I often found myself sweating excessively and trying to get my hair and skin to recover from all the sun exposure. It doesn’t help that I spent a lot time at the beach too.  But hey, isn’t that what summer is for?

Soon I found that whenever I went to the beach I had a replenishing mist bottle with me. The sprays are meant to bring hair, face and body much-needed hydration and life. Each bottle has a blend of amino acids, botanicals and herbs to help soothe and rejuvenate dry or parched skin.  In essence, the perfect summer grooming product.

I was fortunate enough to try out three different varieties: 319 Fragrance Free Ultra Nourishing Replenishing Treatment Mist, Mandarin Italian Fig Restorative Replenishing Treatment Mist and 613 Lemon Rosemary Vanilla Bean Ultra Nourishing Replenishing Treatment Mist (my favorite scent).

In short, I loved them all. The midday refresh was a welcome prize and turned into an inevitable treat during my summer days.  The bottles came to the beach with me along with my latest book and beach towel. The mists traveled with me on vacation to San Diego when it seems like all I did was soak up the sun.

I know some gents will balk at the idea of using a replenishing mist, but as I’ve often learned I’m continuously better for stepping outside of my comfort zone when it comes to grooming. These mists smell good and more importantly, FEEL good.  So I ask, why not give it a try?

To learn more about these treatment mists, you can visit the Wen by Chaz Dean site.

Disclosure: Complimentary product was provided for the sole purpose of this review. The opinions listed herein are mine, and mine alone and have not been unduly influenced by any third party.


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